When somebody I like says something that hurts me...well, wait! Why do words and nonviolent actions even hurt me?
I start liking someone. Think of them as cool. Think they'll be safe to be around and we might in the future have a gala time and everything will be happy and rainbows and sunshine, and if not too exuberant, then at least okay.
But then someday, they say something that we couldn't even imagine because we didn't EXPECT it and our bubble of safety bursts and it hurts and our expectations were not met.
See, you are the one at fault here. Because you EXPECTED. Your friends aren't your helpers, juniors, subordinates, servants, and if it is one of your principles to be a good friend and meet your friends' expectations, then know it is yours and not theirs. So, don't expect things out of them. And they shouldn't expect greatness from you either. Sure, friends help each other. Doesn't mean you can't pursue your own happiness and comfort.
You are a lone adventurer. Learn to be responsible and to rely on yourself for the stuff you need or want. Be proud of your own being and enjoy your own company in solitude. It helps.
I start liking someone. Think of them as cool. Think they'll be safe to be around and we might in the future have a gala time and everything will be happy and rainbows and sunshine, and if not too exuberant, then at least okay.
But then someday, they say something that we couldn't even imagine because we didn't EXPECT it and our bubble of safety bursts and it hurts and our expectations were not met.
See, you are the one at fault here. Because you EXPECTED. Your friends aren't your helpers, juniors, subordinates, servants, and if it is one of your principles to be a good friend and meet your friends' expectations, then know it is yours and not theirs. So, don't expect things out of them. And they shouldn't expect greatness from you either. Sure, friends help each other. Doesn't mean you can't pursue your own happiness and comfort.
You are a lone adventurer. Learn to be responsible and to rely on yourself for the stuff you need or want. Be proud of your own being and enjoy your own company in solitude. It helps.
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