See, the way I see it:
1) You can run away from pain, or
2)You can run towards it or keep being with it, or
3) In the words of Alan Watts, You can Waltz in the moment not giving a damn about anything.
Doing the first is natural for many.
The second is naturally unnatural, but if you stay for an extended period of time submerged in pain, it becomes natural.
The third feels nice upon reading. Poetic, don't you think so?
But does the third work? No...and yes!
Huh? How both?
Well you see, we humans are great at pattern recognition. We are natural problem solvers. After all, It's for our brains that we are what we are among the living beings. If something causes You pain, solve it. A "friend" whom you don't like much and they keep pestering you, Perhaps it's because you haven't told them not to or hinted at it. If they still do after you have informed them, move away from them. The best solution always is to avoid conflict. Creating and partaking in conflict doesn't make you macho, like a lot would prefer to believe. But if you can't avoid conflict, defending yourself is the right thing to do.
But it's not always that one can defend themselves. So what do you do then? Especially if it is from your own self. From your own imagining of your past mistakes and failures-- from you yourself shaming yourself and throwing yourself down the spiral anxiety? You stop! How? Listen, all your imaginings of your regrets and mistakes are mere images in your head based off of assumptions you have made yourself, of which you have no empirical proof of, YOU choose to believe them. YOU have the only power to NOT believe them. And start slowly and in small amounts. You learn how to wave off those negative images. You give up on those principles causing you harm no matter how noble you might think they are. Your only principle in such a time should be: I am going to take care of myself. I am responsible for myself. I understand whatever I do has consequences. So, I will at once pull myself up and start understanding my consequences. The urge to understand is what will get you through-- the urge to understand and apply no matter how many repetitions it takes. "just keep swimming," as dory, the forgetful fish, from Finding Nemo, a movie, would've said.
But hey, does dance really help? Well yeah! Your mind's tensions become your body's. You relax your muscles by dancing or some other form of exercise, and relief will come to your mind too. It's sort of like a feedback loop. What goes inside affects the outside and what affects the outside affects the inside, no matter how much control you might have on your mind. The right thing to do when the outside becomes heavily influencing on your mind is to observe and realize how it affects your mind, and then guide your mind in the direction you wish for it to go into through the power of your memory and your imagination.
1) You can run away from pain, or
2)You can run towards it or keep being with it, or
3) In the words of Alan Watts, You can Waltz in the moment not giving a damn about anything.
Doing the first is natural for many.
The second is naturally unnatural, but if you stay for an extended period of time submerged in pain, it becomes natural.
The third feels nice upon reading. Poetic, don't you think so?
But does the third work? No...and yes!
Huh? How both?
Well you see, we humans are great at pattern recognition. We are natural problem solvers. After all, It's for our brains that we are what we are among the living beings. If something causes You pain, solve it. A "friend" whom you don't like much and they keep pestering you, Perhaps it's because you haven't told them not to or hinted at it. If they still do after you have informed them, move away from them. The best solution always is to avoid conflict. Creating and partaking in conflict doesn't make you macho, like a lot would prefer to believe. But if you can't avoid conflict, defending yourself is the right thing to do.
But it's not always that one can defend themselves. So what do you do then? Especially if it is from your own self. From your own imagining of your past mistakes and failures-- from you yourself shaming yourself and throwing yourself down the spiral anxiety? You stop! How? Listen, all your imaginings of your regrets and mistakes are mere images in your head based off of assumptions you have made yourself, of which you have no empirical proof of, YOU choose to believe them. YOU have the only power to NOT believe them. And start slowly and in small amounts. You learn how to wave off those negative images. You give up on those principles causing you harm no matter how noble you might think they are. Your only principle in such a time should be: I am going to take care of myself. I am responsible for myself. I understand whatever I do has consequences. So, I will at once pull myself up and start understanding my consequences. The urge to understand is what will get you through-- the urge to understand and apply no matter how many repetitions it takes. "just keep swimming," as dory, the forgetful fish, from Finding Nemo, a movie, would've said.
But hey, does dance really help? Well yeah! Your mind's tensions become your body's. You relax your muscles by dancing or some other form of exercise, and relief will come to your mind too. It's sort of like a feedback loop. What goes inside affects the outside and what affects the outside affects the inside, no matter how much control you might have on your mind. The right thing to do when the outside becomes heavily influencing on your mind is to observe and realize how it affects your mind, and then guide your mind in the direction you wish for it to go into through the power of your memory and your imagination.
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